Social Media makes other people’s lives look more desirable. It shifts our own position of contentment and turns it into envy of the life we think others have. It leaves us wondering as we scroll through our timelines: “Why can’t I look like that?” LIKE. “Their marriage is perfect” DOUBLE LIKE. “They’ve accomplished so much, what am I doing with my life?” LIKE. “They seem so perfect and I’m such a mess” LIKE. LIKE. LIKE. (and if you just read this paragraph, and thought to yourself, pshh, I’ve never thought anything like that before…boy, you better quit yo lyin! P.S. Im JK, I love you…Keep reading, this blog post is for you.)
Social media can blinds us of the beautiful gifts God provides us until what we have just doesn’t seem good enough anymore. The reality is so far-fetched. We hide behind our filtered lives and pictures that are perfectly staged but last only a moment to give us a temporary validation high. All the while, our insecurities that reveal the deepest parts of our heart go un dealt (is that a word?) with because we’re too busy making our life look pretty for the next person to compare to. Instead of “connecting” us it “isolates” making us feel like we are the only ones who struggle. So in reality, social media is a lot of broken people impressing other broken people, who are hoping the next broken person’s life makes them feel less broken. (does that make sense? Sorry, Its kinda late) It’s kinda like a contest, except nobody wins because the real issues never get dealt with. We feel the need to cover them up and hope our polished life will inspire others, but this effort can become exhausting.
We forget God knows us. He knows every single part of us, every single thought, every single word before it comes out of our mouth, the very condition and affections of our hearts, he knows our messiness and meets us right in it. No where we can hide, no need to put up an act. There’s no need to try to prove anything. No need to try to clean our lives up in our own effort.
Psalm 139 (NCV)
God Knows Everything
139 Lord, you have examined me and know all about me.
2 You know when I sit down and when I get up. You know my thoughts before I think them.
3 You know where I go and where I lie down. You know everything I do.
4 Lord, even before I say a word, you already know it.
5 You are all around me—in front and in back and have put your hand on me.
6 Your knowledge is amazing to me; it is more than I can understand.
7 Where can I go to get away from your Spirit? Where can I run from you?
8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there. If I lie down in the grave, you are there.
9 If I rise with the sun in the east and settle in the west beyond the sea,
10 even there you would guide me, With your right hand you would hold me.
11 I could say, “The darkness will hide me. Let the light around me turn into night.”
12 But even the darkness is not dark to you. The night is as light as the day; darkness and light are the same to you.
13 You made my whole being; you formed me in my mother’s body.
14 I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way.
What you have done is wonderful. I know this very well.
15 You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother’s body. When I was put together there,
16 you saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in your book
before I was one day old.
17 God, your thoughts are precious to me.They are so many!
18 If I could count them, they would be more than all the grains of sand.
When I wake up, I am still with you.
We don’t need to change our behavior or give up things we like out of obligation so God can change our hearts. He already knows our heart, and once we give it to Him, he changes our affections. The heart that once loved the world and everything in it, will slowly be transformed into a new heart with affections for Christ.We should stop limiting God and putting him inside a morality box because He is so much more than that. He’s more than a list of do’s and dont’s, and He is more than capable of fixing our most inner hurts and struggles that we tend to hide or cover up behind our lives on social media. There’s a quote by Paul Washer that says: ” [A lot of people] think that Christianity is you doing all the righteous things you hate and avoiding all the wicked things you love in order to go to Heaven. No, that’s a lost man with religion. A Christian is a person whose heart has been changed; they have new affections.”
Matthew 11:28-30The Message (MSG)
28-30 “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”
We can stop exhausting ourselves trying to achieve perfection in our own strength, because we will never achieve it. God tells us to come to Him when we feel tired, burned out, and worn out. He tells us to watch Him, and learn from Him instead of covering up our sin, our messy life, our struggles, and our deep insecurities. We don’t have to hide behind social media accounts or a picture perfect life, because in Christ we experience freedom. So let us draw near to Jesus in our struggles and our sin, not because we are perfect but because He is.