I think it’s the greatest hypocrisy of the church to “evolve” only when it is convenient to us. Over the years we have become a church who grows accepting and forgiving of things like divorce, re-marriage, fornication, adultery, drunkenness,  and the list goes on and on. We welcome people who are guilty of these things with open arms, reminding them of how forgiving God is, and how God can redeem anything. To these things, people are quick to say things like “you are a work in progress”, “people don’t change overnight” “God is quick to forgive when we confess our sins” “God can redeem anything that is broken” “God’s grace …” “God’s love covers a multitude of sins”, yet the people who show such forgiveness and love towards those issues,  are the same people who are judgmental, unforgiving, and even hateful to gay, lesbian, transgender, foreigners, immigrants, women’s rights activists, etc. I’m sorry but, what am I missing here? Is some sin okay because it is convenient for us and our lifestyle? Do we think some sin is okay because we take scripture out of context to  make us feel that we are better than other people? Last time I checked, Jesus died for everyone. Including  gay, lesbian, transgender, poor, minorities, refugees, etc. They are no less of a human being than someone who has committed adultery. Why is it that someone who has been divorced and re-married gets to walk into a church and worship like any other person, but gay people feel like they can’t step foot in a church? This is the kind of American Christianity we have created,  and it is really missing the mark. People holding up signs saying things like “God hates fags” is acceptable, but me standing outside McDonalds with a sign that says “God hates Gluttony” would be ridiculous right?  Do you see the irony? What is crazy is that we are so quick to point at what other people are doing wrong but minimize the sin in our life by comparing it to others to make ourselves feel better. We have become a culture where partying and getting drunk and high on the weekend, having sex before marriage, gossiping about others, hating our neighbor, living a life of greed, is justified while we post hateful things about other people’s sin on social media, since our sin is done in the dark, it is irrelevant, right? Some people are deeply hurting, struggling, and broken and looking for a relationship with Jesus, but they just can’t seem to find Him. Could it be that as the church we are not doing the greatest job at resembling him? Don’t believe me? Just look at the timeline on your social media. This election has brought the worst out of all of us. It is really hard for someone to believe we stand behind the grace and the truth we preach if we are not practicing it, if we are being silent on the injustice happening all around us. We are so quick to stand up against homosexuality but become silent when one of them gets murdered in a hate crime. Last time I checked murder was still frowned upon in the bible. (Exodus 20:13) But if it doesn’t affect us, we turn the other cheek. Because they are not an unborn baby, because they are gay, because they are living a lifestyle contrary to your beliefs,  their death doesn’t matter? We are quick to call out supporters of abortion, but become silent on issues like adoption. Last time I checked the bible also spoke about orphans. (James 1:27) Hundreds of thousands of kids dying in abusive homes or without homes, yet we stay silent. We turn the other way. Every single day.  So, where are we church? These are ALL concepts in the bible. Yet we feel like some things are okay because people who practice certain sins are just indispensable? It’s like we are nowhere to be found when broken people need hope, but we’re the first ones to show up when people need reminding of what they’re doing wrong.  We are all broken, yet for some reason we are blind to our own brokenness and so very open-eyed to our neighbor’s. Unfortunately, a lot of the church of today hides behind an external religion based on morality, legalism, and lukewarmness, where we live secret lives during the week, and pretend to be more spiritual than our neighbor because we go to church on Sunday. We create a long list of do’s and dont’s for people, and turn around and do the complete opposite of what we preach, but want to hold them up to higher standards and have little room for grace when they fall short. Please don’t get me wrong, I certainly believe in calling out a friend when they’re doing wrong. The church is designed to stay in community and to help build each other up. But let’s not be a christian who judges people by their sin and automatically condemns them to Hell without even trying to get to know them. Trust me, I highly doubt the holy spirit depends on our expertise help in convicting people of their sins. You want to help someone who is struggling? You want to see someone get saved? Well, here’s a crazy idea you can try. Love them! Love them right where they are. Love them in the middle of their mess. Be a light in their world of darkness. Be a walking, living, example of who Jesus is. Regardless of their skin color, gender, social-economic status, immigration status, religion, sexual orientation, past, or lifestyle preferences. You don’t have to agree with someone to love them.

(& Lets not be like the Pharisees in Matthew 23):

“They talk a good line but they don’t live it. They don’t take it into their hearts and live it out in their behavior. It’s all spit-and-polish veneer. Their lives are perpetual fashion shows, embroidered prayer shawls one day and flowery prayers the next. You’re hopeless, you religion scholars and Pharisees. Frauds! You keep meticulous account books, tithing on every nickel and dime you get, but on the meat of God’s law, things like fairness and compassion, and commitment, the absolute basics! you carelessly take it or leave it. You’re hopeless, you religion scholars and Pharisees! Frauds! You burnish the surface of your cups and bowls so they sparkle in the sun, while the insides are maggoty with your greed and gluttony. Stupid Pharisee! Scour the insides, and then the gleaming surface will mean something.You’re hopeless, you religion scholars and Pharisees! Frauds! You’re like manicured grave plots, grass clipped and the flowers bright, but six feet down it’s all rotting bones and worm-eaten flesh. People look at you and think you’re saints, but beneath the skin you’re total frauds.”(The Message)

With LOVE, 

Patsy ❤




One thought on “You don’t have to agree with someone to love them.

  1. amazings as always beautfiul! you are the best.

    This feeds my soul and it reminds me right now in my moment of why we are here. Thanks!


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